5 day series of Personality Development Program for growing ChildrenDay 4 – ExcerptsI have a 10 year old nephew, super active, emotionally intelligent however a little shy in expressing emotions like anger, embarrassment, and opening up – something that runs in the family. We don’t stay together however we meet at least 2-3 times in a year for the duration of 10 -20 days each time. So we do share a bond.One evening, he went out to play with his friends while taking rounds on his bicycle. It was almost 1 and a half hours and he came back dirty and all wet with his sweat. He came & straight away went to his mom and decently started telling her (these were his words) –“Mumma, I was playing with Apporva & Daksh and (some more names), then Apporva went up to his house, I also went and while coming back, I fell down (and now he started showing his minor bruises and muddy shirt) and see nothing happened to me, I am fine”. His Mom got little worried and then asked me to help him getting clean and change his clothes to avoid any infections etc.She was cool - probably it is the everyday story for her to know, and continued doing her work.I, on the contrary, got very disturbed to know that he has fallen down. So when I was helping him change, I asked, how did all happened like the real story. He very naturally kept on sharing….repeatedly affirming me that “HE IS FINE”.  So in order to appreciate on “HE BEING FINE”, I dramatically responded - “so you have fallen down……then you got up ON YOUR OWN…. and sat on your bicycle ON YOUR OWN……and came back all the way….. ON YOUR OWN (he started nodding, with a sad face) – Wow, I said, YOU ARE SO STRONG” By the time, I finished, I saw his twinkling wet eye with tears flowing down.I was deeply touched and hugged him very tightly and started appreciated him for what he did and how strong he is  …again & again. His Mom got a little shocked to see him crying.As he is a sensitive child, we started analysing this incident. As elders,-Have we always told him that getting hurt while playing is part of growing up - YES-And that he becomes stronger by getting hurt and also to tell everything - YES-We also have never stopped him to share things (and that is what he did) - YESNow what probably went wrong could be all or any of the following:-We forgot to ensure that SHARING HOW THEY FELT is more important-Expressing the pain is joyful and most important-You are not less strong if you shed tearsWe learned our lessons – Did you?Mom & Dad – Please be vigilant J